When I met the second guy, he offered to go Dutch and there was a little awkwardness on the table.I offered to pay and he gladly accepted and quicy went to the washroom.I have had coffee/lunch with some male ex-colleagues and they never offered to buy me a coffee.Once I went for drinks with two men and only had sparkling water and when the waiter came neither of them offered to pay mine. Where I come from, a coffee is no big deal and a man will always offer to pay a woman's drink. I am not on the dating scene but I noticed men in Switzerland (not only Swiss men) tend to let the ladies pay.Of course the weather doesn't always comply and for those days a coffee shop date should work.In my case when I met someone I liked we spent lots of time going on walks and for picnics the initial few dates and then for our first dinner date my beau brought it up and asked me how I think we ought to handle the bill.If he comes up with some lame excuse, then use the same hand to wave bye bye with. Hi Im a woman from Asia and I would like to clear some doubts when dating Swiss men, particularly Swiss German men.
After the dinner, he requested to visit an attraction site (which is much costlier than the meal) and he didnt pay me back for the tickets even though I said we could split. This kind of confusion can be experienced, at least briefly, by all sorts of people on their first few dates.
As far as "tend to let the ladies pay" goes, I've never seen that happen.
Where it does happen as you describe, I wonder whether this situation perhaps arises because of an assumption by the woman that ONE of them will pay for both of them (and if she is thinking in an old-fashioned, patriarchal sexist way, then she may assume that this ONE ought to be the man). I think it is part of adult responsibility to take enough money with you when you go out, never to assume that anyone else should be paying for your food or drinks, then pay your own bills yourself, and let everyone else pay theirs. If ever you wish to be kind enough to pay for someone else, well then do so as a clear choice, with a glad heart, with no resentment.
Hi Im a woman from Asia and I would like to clear some doubts when dating Swiss men, particularly Swiss German men.
I met two different Swiss German guys and went out on dates with them.