Gay dating advice column

While the common dating ‘rules’ – not that I believe in rules – can apply to anybody, there are perhaps a few things we, as gay guys, need to pay a little more attention to. We whinge that we can’t find the right man, or never get a second date, but the usual reason is we’re not looking hard enough in the first place.

Whether we’re into bears, jocks or geeks, sometimes our narrow search criteria holds us back.

You don’t really want to run into one of your old flames – or one of theirs – and it’s good to go somewhere fresh to you both, free of distractions or associations with other dates.

Yes, plenty of us have been around a bit, but don’t let it play on your mind when on a date with a new guy.

I sit on a bench at the bus stop.) Him: You waiting for a bus now?

I’m sorry I called you a hypocrite – just how I see it.

All of these things are incredibly flattering, and part of me agrees with you.

I’m flattered you’re reading, that you’re still reading, and that you took the time to contact me.

You’re saying, “You tick a box, you’ll do” like they’re not a person, but a means to satisfy your kink. You expect me to tell you intimate details of my personal life to you, the way I would to my therapist, because you read my site for a while and you feel somehow entitled to missing information. You don’t know me and you have no real right to my inner physical, emotional, or intellectual life, beyond what I publish on my site, which by the way you read for free – so I owe you even less. Someone will stomach their painfully underdeveloped, spoiled, sour personalities. Him: I’m asking you a question, and you’re avoiding it. It seems like you’ve made a 180, and I don’t know what to make of all of it.

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