Dating your ex

Dating your ex can be a positive thing or a nightmare.

To keep things on a positive note, follow certain guidelines.

For example, if your ex cheated on you, but regrets that, you shouldn't try to use that against him any time you fight.

It's easy to fall into the same routines that you had when you were a couple--dinner and a movie on a Friday, sex on Saturday morning.

If you've been divorced for just a few months, it's probably too soon to consider getting back together with your ex-husband.

Emotions are likely to be running too high and wounds might still be fresh.

It can be confusing if your children have both parents under one roof for a week, then another breakup, then back together.

If you commit to being with your spouse again, really commit and make the changes necessary, in yourselves and in your relationship, to keep the relationship going.

Talk about what issues are no longer issues because circumstances have changed, and how you will deal with elements that are still issues.Before you go back to dating an ex, it's important that you have learned to enjoy being single.If you start a relationship with your ex simply because you don't like being alone, you're not coming from the right place and your relationship may fail again.Kathy Gleason is a freelance writer living in rural northern New Jersey who has been writing professionally since 2010.She is a graduate of The Institute for Therapeutic Massage in Pompton Lakes, N. Before leaving her massage therapy career to start a family, Gleason specialized in Swedish style, pregnancy and sports massage.

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