Dating someone who is currently separated
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Once divorce was apparent, I joined a divorce support group.
Quite similar to the recommendation for recovering from alcoholism etc....no dating for a year or so...... The people I mentioned are fine, smart, law-abiding citizens who were overwhelmed with their situations and made poor choices.
Good luck Personally I would NEVER date someone who is "separated".
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The first is that word “currently.” It implies the schism isn’t permanent, that my wife and I could go back to each other, ruining any other relationship I had begun, ending a heaven made in Match. According to several studies, only 10–20% of married couples have reconciled after splitting up.)I admit it is annoying to lose a boyfriend or girlfriend to someone else, but that someone doesn’t have to be an estranged spouse. If the rival has something you lack, something your partner craves, that partner may choose the rival. I would say less likely, in fact, because of the agony between the two of them. Credit the battles during the separation for this later rapprochement. You know, aren’t always Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm when a marriage collapses. I repeat: I have no problem dating a woman who is CS.
I can’t tell you how many times my heart has thrummed as I read someone’s profile — she likes comedy! If I’m right and CS is to single women as adamantium is to Luke Cage, then I think there are two reasons for it. This, I think, is the second reason women are nervous about CS: they don’t want to see their new boyfriend hulk out every time a text arrives from Mrs. Short-term hate, however, is harmless; it doesn’t stain your soul like a decades-long grudge. You know how the human body does things that are painful or disgusting but that help it heal? A scab is itchy and unpleasant, but it protects the wound from infection. When CS couples war, we tsk-tsk at their stupidity, their tattering of civil order. They’ll never be besties, but we all know stories of guts-hating ex-spouses whose adult child is getting married, which means the exes will have to . The wedding occurs, the exes mostly behave, and a good-enough time is had by all.
Notice I didn’t say “is failing.” There is no “is.” Nobody is watching the action unfold slo-mo, as in a John Woo film. Words were said, tears were spilled, conditions were fucked. Not every couple who separates will fight, of course, and those who will don’t do it forever. She is more alluring, in fact, than one who waits for divorce. I know she is honest, since it would be easy and untraceable to choose “Divorced” when she truly isn’t. And if she breaks it off with me to go back to her husband? I’m fine with women who are separated, but they don’t seem fine with me. — only to go silent when I see she has limited her interests to men who are single, divorced, or widowed. I can’t think of any other human endeavor where death is preferable to “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”So I’m “currently separated” (hereinafter, CS), and it’s costing me dates. Or I can live by myself and feel happy and fulfilled, two conditions that make me ripe for any relationship. Conflict, then, is an asset, one we under-appreciate. It is relationship perdition, a nuptial netherworld, a dating demilitarized zone. I can share a house with my wife and be lonely as a ghost. The rancor scabs over the hurt, allowing us to live to the next day, and the day after that, et cetera.Forget about inquiring about the state law, you should just ask this guy these questions instead of internet folks.In my opinion, the very next words out of your mouth when he said he was "currently separated" should have been "So you are married?