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But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. Don’t get me wrong, there are advantages in a 45-year-old guy. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world — to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood — that could make sense.But I never seriously considered marrying her for the reasons above.Older men, it seems to me, are like gold dust on the dating scene right now.Time creates wisdom – but it also creates responsibilities and complications — mortgage, kids, career, etc.All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older. Still, most of them fail miserably, for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting.She may be younger, but her feelings are just as genuine as yours. Do establish boundaries In some rather obvious ways you’re at different stages of life, so if you're just enjoying a fling make sure she isn't shopping for wedding dresses.Similarly, if you're getting attached and she's planning on moving to Japan for six months, you should probably have a super-fun and not-at-all-awkward conversation about “where you see this going”.
All the issues raised above of having a relationship apply, but also now you bring into the picture the additional issues of having children, different perspectives and priorities about money, as well as life-changing issues for the woman like retirement, menopause, and health issues a decade or more before the younger man will even begin relating to such concerns.
But see, for men who covet younger women, it’s not whether you look good for your age — it’s what age you really are. If she wants to date a guy who is 6’2”, makes 0,000 , likes skiing, is within ten miles of her house and five years of her age, you know what? All she has to do is go on Match.com, and wade through a few thousand applicants. There are many other things that are attractive about older men. They can afford nicer restaurants and vacations and have cultivated greater tastes in the arts.
They’re more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than a twentysomething party boy.
There are enough hurdles to making a relationship work, however old you are, so why let age add more stress?
If you don’t make it an issue, chances are it won’t be.