Christian dating guidebook

(Bonus if that model is praying with a beatific smile or has a little-worn Bible nearby—and extra bonus if there’s also a steaming mug of coffee.) Fourth, keep producing content about sex and dating in every angle possible, at least once a week, then spray it all over social media with creative hashtags.

How many times have I heard women groan that no men in church are asking women out, and men grumble that women have too-high standards?

But I’ve also heard the moans of many who are dating, agonizing over whether their dates are “spiritually mature” enough, pure enough, love God enough.

They fret over how much physical touch they can allow before they breach purity, then worry whether they’re being too legalistic—a four-letter word among Christian millennials.

Now, at age 42, he’s not so certain, and he’s dealing with backlash from now grown-up readers who feel his book was misleading or harmful. Whatever people took away from the book, I saw in his young self a genuine desire to honor God when he wrote, “Every relationship for a Christian is an opportunity to love another person like God loves us.” The big picture of love, he wrote, is “serving others and glorifying God.” I said “Amen” to most everything he wrote—yet when it comes to applying that general principle of love into each individual’s unique, complicated relationship, the area within the perimeters of that principle can feel so vast, so cloudy, so abstract.

What does it look like to love someone like God loves us, to serve someone, to glorify God in a dating relationship that’s not yet in covenanted matrimony?

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