Chat deaf with girl
I'm deaf with a lower case d because I can't hear without the use of cochlear implants, but I never learned sign language and don't have much of a desire to.Woman B: I honestly don't have a preference between uppercase and lowercase d/Deaf. Woman A: In the past, I liked "hearing impaired" or "hard of hearing." I didn't like to refer to myself as being deaf because to me, being deaf meant I had absolutely no hearing. Since my eardrums still work, I can sense vibrations from noisy things like stereos, megaphones, or shrill whistles if I'm within vicinity, but without my bilateral cochlear implants, my brain is oblivious to sounds.When I began having sex as a teenager, I was really nervous that they'd accidentally see my cochlear implants and be weirded out. They might say I took advantage of her because of her disability." I've never had a guy say those things to me, but that was my biggest worry. If they know they're noisy, they'll just restrain it as much as possible. The drawbacks were that they didn't understand what it is like to not be able to hear.I've been told that people often forget that I'm deaf and my cochlear implants are pretty hidden underneath my curly hair. Sometimes they'd get frustrated and lose their cool with me if I needed them to repeat something more than once.Woman A: Prior to getting my cochlear implants, it was hard for me to date the guy I was seeing at the time because I couldn't hear him well and he'd get frustrated.
A recent thread on Reddit featured a 20-year-old deaf woman who said she really wanted to have sex, but she was scared to. I was legally deaf, but I had a tiny bit of hearing.
If I meet someone who won't look at me when they talk or bother signing to me, you can bet I'm not taking them anywhere near my bedroom.
Woman C: The most challenging part is helping guys stop thinking of disabled people as china dolls you have to be careful with.
If it's in the act, I'll usually just say "nope." There's really no need to articulate why it isn't working right in the moment, since it kills the mood.
Woman C: Whether I have cochlear implants on or not, I just tell them.