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Walfish says is a necessity for women of all ages is a good therapist.
“Being divorced isn’t something to be ashamed of, but it does mean you’ve got some things to work through, especially if you want your next relationship to be better,” she explains. A good counselor can help you work through all your complicated feelings and create a solid foundation for love, she adds.“Being able to talk openly about difficult issues like finances, fertility, children, and sex is key,” Dr. “The older you are, the more complicated these issues become and it’s better to know initially if there are any major deal breakers.” One thorny example that women in their 50s need to consider is retirement accounts, she says.
But if you're looking for your next relationship, considering every step carefully is key, according to Walfish.
“Anyone can hook up, but really pleasurable sex often requires good communication and feeling safe with your partner—and you This is especially true for women who are in perimenopause or menopause, as hormonal changes can make sex more difficult—which is why having a patient, loving partner who is just as focused on your pleasure as their own can be an important part of the moving on process, she says.
But Gandhi says you shouldn't discount a "slow burn." "Especially when we are dating after divorce, singles think immediate, blazing chemistry is the key thing to look for," she continues. Chemistry, especially for women, can grow over time—and may take many dates to begin to grow!
Teens and adult children can be brought into the conversation sooner.
Just be sure to answer their questions completely but without giving the extra details you reserve for your wine nights with your friends, Dr. “The older woman-younger man dynamic (and vice versa) doesn't always work out long-term” Dr. Of course, there are naturally always exceptions to the rule.
You don’t have the same clothing style as you did in high school (and thank heavens for that) so why would you have the same taste in dates?
While you absolutely want to look for someone with similar core values to yours, a divorce gives you the perfect excuse to let your ideal “type” evolve.